Have come home to get my shiznit together. Last night was interesting. Chrissy and I went to Chad's and had some fun, then we went to Culver's with Vtalik and Zhora, both of whom were a bit annoyed with us (*whut*).

I made the worst/best scratch shot in the history of billiards last night, for which I got a hug from Zhora. I'm not going to lie and pretend I didn't like that, but I think Tim's right for the most part; Little Dude probably just doesn't want me to feel like I've been taken advantage of.

I read a lot about ethnocentrism today in Human Sexuality class. It got me thinking about ethnocentrism as related to the double standard I see so clearly in Little Dude:

One of the more common double standards that is seen every day is where females should be treated more leniently than males for the same acts. For example, physical violence; some females believe that they deserve to be given the right to hit a man, however he should not be able to retaliate against that. Their justification of this is that the majority less physically able to cause harm, and that they have a lower pain tolerance than a man. A counter-argument of this is that for two parties to be treated equally without discrimination, they should have the same consequences that they would receive if they were a different gender.

A notorious type of double standard is the classic "studs vs. sluts" model, in which a man who has sex with many female partners is considered a "stud" or "player" (which are often considered compliments), while a woman who has sex with many male partners is considered a "slut" or "skank" (which are highly pejorative terms). This is related to the madonna-whore dichotomy (also called the virgin-whore dichotomy). Proponents of this double standard would say that it is justified by natural law (men naturally cannot help it but women can and are thus supposed to function as the "gatekeepers"), while opponents would say that such an assumption is sexist and based on outmoded views of sexuality. Opponents may differ with one another; some feel that nonmonogamy and/or promiscuity is a good thing for both sexes, some feel it is wrong for both sexes, and others are simply view it as neutral. Some believe this double standard is gradually breaking down, citing neologisms such as "playette" (a female "player") and "man-slut" (a man who sleeps around). Gender-neutral terms such as "free lover", "free spirit", or "libertine" may also be used as well nowadays. However, skeptics argue that the use of such reversed and gender-neutral terms remains relatively rare. For example, the term "man-slut" appears on Google with less than one percent the frequency of either "slut" or "whore."

Perhaps I should start calling him a man-slut.

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